I don’t know about you, but I have always wanted to have a long and happy life. I once read that the secret to achieving this was maintaining healthy eating habits, exercising regularly, drinking plenty of water, and minding your business! While the first three ideas are pretty easy to achieve, the same cannot always be said when it comes to minding your business. When it comes down to it, being able to mind your own business is an art.
We live in a society that is obsessed with being in each other’s business. There are the reality shows, gossip blogs, social media outlets (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat) all dedicated to giving people an inside look into other people’s lives. On any given day I can tell you what the next person wore to work, what they ate for lunch, what time they went to the gym, and what their romantic status is. Not that that is a huge problem. But the over exposure makes people feel like they have a place to pass judgment on other people’s lives. It is distracting and extremely overwhelming at times.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel as if I am bombarded with an abundance of information that I simply do not want. For example, look at the latest story circulating around the 4th grade Elementary school teacher who is now being publicly shamed. In some people’s eyes she dresses too provocatively, in others she looks just fine. Being as opinionated as I am, sometimes I struggle with simply minding my business or giving my “two cents”. I made a conscience effort to sit this one out! I rationalized that one, I do not know this woman and two; nothing she is doing has a direct effect on me and my life. So…I minded my damn business!
I think we are all guilty of being a little too involved in what the next person was or were not doing at one point in time. With all that being said, I asked myself what are the benefits of being up in other people’s business. And honestly I couldn’t think of one. We are stuck comparing and competing in our lives. We upset ourselves and get stressed over things that have nothing to do with us. (If you don’t believe me, go to the comment section of one of your favorite celebrity’s pictures and read). People now feel comfortable enough to tell someone (they don’t even know) how they should look, think, act, and speak….hell I could go on and on. At the end of the day, all we are doing is driving ourselves crazy!
Life really would be so much easier if we all knew how to simply mind our own business. Minding your business doesn’t mean ignoring everybody and everything (that is more like isolation). Being able to mind your business means you are able to control who and what you give your energy to. I have said it once and I will say it again, negativity can be extremely draining. When you are all up in everyone’s saying and/or doing, you are leaving your door wide open for drama and negativity. In fact, I believe minding your business is not only one of the keys to living a happy and long life, but also a successful life too. Here are some steps we can all take to master the art of minding our business…
I am an advocate for unplugging and just taking a break. Sometimes deactivating your Facebook, or deleting your Snapchat is all you need to remove the temptation to be focused on what everyone else is doing. A little hiatus never hurt anybody…
Focus on yourself and what is going on in your own life. What do you want for yourself? What are you doing to achieve your goals? What are you doing to live a happy life? What have you already accomplished? What are you neglecting? Hell, what are you doing to make this world a better place? When you are not distracted by being up in everyone else’s business, you have time to focus on yourself and being the best person you can be.
- Be Present
It is easy to let life pass you by when you are distracted by everything that is going on around you. Make an effort to be present in the moment and appreciate the things that actually matter to you.
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